A doctor from Pune has stopped charging for the deliveries of girls or treatments. I think it is a brilliant stand to take.
Pune doctor stops charging fees for delivering girl child following Beed infanticide http://t.co/rLPJ4NFy bravo! May your tribe increase!
— Vidyut (@Vidyut) January 22, 2013
The reason for it is sad though. I was reminded of the time when I was in the maternity home for the birth of my son. Two girls were born (and other boys too) and they remained in my mind for a long time because of the difference in how they were received by their families.
When I was in hospital for delivering N, 2 girls were born. 1 was born when I was in labour. Huge crowd of relatives. Festive mood.
— Vidyut (@Vidyut) January 22, 2013
Day before discharged, another girl was born. Total mourning. Mother was 'too upset' to breastfeed. I almost asked them to give her to me.
— Vidyut (@Vidyut) January 22, 2013
I wanted a girl. But my sweetie changed my mind at first sight. Didn't ask for refund :p almost changed mind back seeing that ignored girl.
— Vidyut (@Vidyut) January 22, 2013
Her family mostly left her to the nurses. They gave her any milk. I wanted to slap her mother and whole family. How can you hate a baby?
— Vidyut (@Vidyut) January 22, 2013
That first girl had a full mela of non stop visitors till doctors had to scold. The other lay there untouched.
— Vidyut (@Vidyut) January 22, 2013
Late at night, I used to chat with the staff. I used to hold her and walk the corridor talking nonsense. Her mom didn't mind. Didn't care.
— Vidyut (@Vidyut) January 22, 2013
While I was in labour, the father's aunt was so happy and emotional, she had tears in her eyes. Joy. I hugged her. She was overjoyed.
— Vidyut (@Vidyut) January 22, 2013
How can a girl have such different welcomes into the world? 🙁
— Vidyut (@Vidyut) January 22, 2013
@Vidyut Girls will only be there to tc of the 'mourners' until death! 😐 🙂
— Arthi Vijay (@cocoa_beanish) January 22, 2013
And the staff sees these things. They hate the mothers who hate girl babies. At least the ones I spoke with. They felt sorry for that girl.
— Vidyut (@Vidyut) January 22, 2013
http://twitter.com/aparna639/status/293837367553454080
https://twitter.com/awidge/status/293837852595339265
I don't know. I got discharged. Got busy with my own. RT @aparna639: @Vidyut what happ to that baby finally ?
— Vidyut (@Vidyut) January 22, 2013
What I really remember is eating dinner with the low caste staff (I know because they told me), listening to their anger with that family.
— Vidyut (@Vidyut) January 22, 2013
They told me they were low caste, because I was sharing dinner with them. They didn't want problems later. I didn't have a problem. I ate.
— Vidyut (@Vidyut) January 22, 2013
https://twitter.com/aparna639/status/293839075369160705
@Vidyut #girlchild: I had a girl already. When second girl born, I was away but asked my wife to go for TT operation but docs refused.
— Ram Katare (@rvkatare) January 22, 2013
Funny how a tiny baby penis can be the difference between festivity and mourning. The trees we see in the seeds. Who knows the future?
— Vidyut (@Vidyut) January 22, 2013
https://twitter.com/aparna639/status/293839975605235712
@vidyut Llittle girl stuck with u. Thanks for sharing. Don't know why there's such diff in their welcome. Def feel blessed 5 girls in my fam
— K. Saran Caldwell (@DearDIDI_KSC) January 22, 2013
@Vidyut At 60, my grandmother was upset I was born; after 23 yrs, I have her love n affection finally 🙂 She finally understood 🙂
— Arthi Vijay (@cocoa_beanish) January 22, 2013
https://twitter.com/aparna639/status/293840359841222656
Also, we feel pain for that abandoned girl. What about the boy who would be abandoned without that detail? What is his worth as a person?
— Vidyut (@Vidyut) January 22, 2013
It has to go, you know? The babies were all adorable. Though mine was cuter :p RT @aparna639: @Vidyut The mental divide will always exist.
— Vidyut (@Vidyut) January 22, 2013
@24x7chocoholic @Vidyut well I am 25 and hoping one day, my parents will appreciate their 5 daughters, glad you reached ur destination
— Phoolan Devi 🍉 (@pholandevii) January 22, 2013
@vidyut Dad gave great advice: Always find a man (husband) who has a sister because he will always know how to treat a woman. #girlchild
— K. Saran Caldwell (@DearDIDI_KSC) January 22, 2013
https://twitter.com/aparna639/status/293841596087156736
@ashsultana @Vidyut 🙂 They will… Def! It is just a matter of time! The older they become, the more they will look up to the 5 of u!
— Arthi Vijay (@cocoa_beanish) January 22, 2013
https://twitter.com/aparna639/status/293842563113304064
https://twitter.com/aparna639/status/293842932727955456
@ashsultana @Vidyut My mum has a severe back condition:'I have an only girl who is ready to tc of me; had I had a son, I doubt the same :)'
— Arthi Vijay (@cocoa_beanish) January 22, 2013
@24x7chocoholic I dont know if they will or if they wont 🙂 I just hope when that time comes I am not totally indifferent to them 🙂 @Vidyut
— Phoolan Devi 🍉 (@pholandevii) January 22, 2013
@24x7chocoholic Point taken but it ended up with what you can provide for them and not who you are, huge difference IMO @Vidyut
— Phoolan Devi 🍉 (@pholandevii) January 22, 2013
@aparna639 @vidyut Parents always said that it's always the daughters that take care of & who can be counted on when u need them. #girlchild
— K. Saran Caldwell (@DearDIDI_KSC) January 22, 2013
@ashsultana @Vidyut They will realise it as soon as they observe how some sons treat their parents 🙂 towards 30s and post-marriage 🙂
— Arthi Vijay (@cocoa_beanish) January 22, 2013
https://twitter.com/awidge/status/293844800149528578
@aparna639 @vidyut Well known fact that girls in my family are smarter! 😛 I love boys 2 They just must be respectful, loving & supportive!
— K. Saran Caldwell (@DearDIDI_KSC) January 22, 2013
@DearDIDI_KSC Seems more of a problem in some parts of India, rather than with Indians. Not seen such discrimination outside India@vidyut
— Dipu (@dipu412) January 22, 2013
@d_pujara @vidyut Sadly also issue out of India Discrimination doesn't recognize borders Try 2 change w/ #LohriForHer to celebrate girls too
— K. Saran Caldwell (@DearDIDI_KSC) January 22, 2013
https://twitter.com/TrianguluM33/status/293863910019317762
@triangulum33 @vidyut For me isn't a generalization. Gone from my dad & his support to my husband w/ two sis. Take a 2nd look at men w/ sis.
— K. Saran Caldwell (@DearDIDI_KSC) January 23, 2013
https://twitter.com/TrianguluM33/status/293877398552854528
https://twitter.com/aparna639/status/293885888495222784
@aparna639 @triangulum33 @vidyut It was advice that rang true for me. May not be everyone. There's a saying we marry men like our fathers 2
— K. Saran Caldwell (@DearDIDI_KSC) January 23, 2013
https://twitter.com/aparna639/status/293888977109389313
https://twitter.com/aparna639/status/293891843723235328
@aparna639 @triangulum33 @vidyut Really our own point of reference is all we have. Parents always thought I was smart & listened
— K. Saran Caldwell (@DearDIDI_KSC) January 23, 2013
@aparna639 @triangulum33 @vidyut Own point of reference is all we have. Parents always thought I was smart & listened. Didn't matter if girl
— K. Saran Caldwell (@DearDIDI_KSC) January 23, 2013
https://twitter.com/aparna639/status/293897550367453184
@aparna639 @triangulum33 @vidyut Edu important I was 1st to go to Uni in a family of 6 kids. Had to fight for it since breaking new ground.
— K. Saran Caldwell (@DearDIDI_KSC) January 23, 2013
@TrianguluM33 @aparna639 @vidyut Parents illiterate Didn't value edu since wasn't important in fam. Since was top of class knew I wanted 2go
— K. Saran Caldwell (@DearDIDI_KSC) January 23, 2013
@aparna639 @triangulum33 @vidyut Thanks for a great convo. Diff perspectives & experiences. Appreciate u sharing. Food for thought for blog.
— K. Saran Caldwell (@DearDIDI_KSC) January 23, 2013